Grief: The response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died
On March 31, 2019, Ermias Joseph Asghedom (aka Nipsey Hussle) was fatally gunned down in front of his clothing store in Los Angeles, California. The senseless killing of the 33 year old rapper, songwriter, father, businessman, and future real estate mogul took the world by surprise. How could a man that was loved, honored, respected, and cared for by so many people be gunned down and killed in broad daylight, in his own city, in front of his own business? This heinous act has left many sad, angry, disappointed, hurt, and shocked. But what does one do with such emotions? How does one channel that energy?
The moment I heard Nipsey had been shot, I was outraged because who would want to hurt such a kind soul? Moments later when the news broke that he had passed, I found myself crying endlessly. But what I could not understand is why was I crying so hard over a man I did not personally know. Yes, I was a fan but I was not a "super fan". I had heard his music but honestly, I've never purchased it nor have I even been to a show. But the sadness took over me and is honestly still there. Crazy, right? Or is it?
It has said that there are five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. And while a griever may not experience these in this direct order, they will experience them. And they must go through it in his/her own way. Nothing irritates me more than to hear someone advise another on how to grieve. Grieving takes time. It is a process. No one should be told when to stop grieving. It is a personal experience.
Have you ever grieved the loss of a loved one, or hell, someone still living for that matter? (Yes, we can grieve the living.) Did you go through the five stages? Did you seek help from others or did you tough it out alone?
I encourage you to share your grief experience so that others can know they are not alone. Your story may help someone get through their grieving experience right now. Please remember that grieving is a personal experience and should be handled as such. Do not let anyone make you feel some type of way about how you grieve or the amount of time it takes.